Shugah Spice and Everything Nice – A Tribute to Shugah

A sweet, outgoing, fun-loving travel blogger Shugah Pauline Gonzales who always gives the best travel tips, quirks, and stunning photos in her blog Wandershugah. For everyone dear to her, she always gives the best laugh, food trip, and spontaneous fun and travel. Everything is very light. For her, life is a big playground and we must face the world with light and love. That is how her friends knew Shugah.

Last August, she was diagnosed with Stage 3 Cervical Cancer. She experienced severe abdominal, pelvic and back pain and very heavy irregular bleeding. Four months after, she passed away last December 3 at the age of 23.

There will be a fundraising gig for Shugah curated by blogger, and former Itchyworms social media manager Christian Melanie Lee on December 14. 8 pm at Route 196, Katipunan, Quezon City. Eight talented local bands and performers will give tribute to the wonderful life of Shugah such as The 28th, Unmute, Calein, Krystle, Sam Gaytano, The Metro Fantastic, Martti Franca and Wanderband Manila semifinalist Ysanygo.

For those who can’t make it on Friday, you may send your donation to:

Account name: Karen Chayne Sanchez
Bank name: BDO
Account number: 001910052084

Shugah Spice and Everything Nice is co-presented by CDO Bloggers and Manila Concert Junkies.

Sponsor: Eye Know Right Shadies.

Special thanks to our media partners: Raccoon Productions, Philippine Bloggers Network, Tagay Ka Muna Pre, Blogapalooza, OPM Memes and The Slickmaster’s Files.

Proceeds for the said gig goes to Shugah’s family.

My Thoughts About Bullying

Bullying is common among kids. Parents should instill good values to their kids and teach them what is right and wrong. Discipline is the key to make our kids grow a better person. But I understand that there are parents who doesn’t want to scold their children. For them, talking is enough. However, sometimes kids need to be reprimanded and be scolded as not to repeat the same mistakes again. Often, some of these kids grow to be a spoiled-brat and rude. Sadly, I knew a lot of them but I don’t want to tell the parents about their children’s bad attitude because I know they would be insulted. But perhaps I’ll just wait for the right timing.

I’m talking about bullying because despite the new law implemented against bullying, some still got away with these. In the child’s formative years, parents should already instill discipline to their children. Sadly for my 7 year old child, she has lots of classmates who were bullies. But most of the time, I tried to understand their kids. They are often times sweet but when their being a ‘bully’ strikes, they chose no one whom to bully.

My little one was bitten twice by her classmates. Once, I witnessed her classmate pinching her hands, the other one, slapped her many times on the back for no reason at all. The one that pinched her, I called her attention. But the one who slapped her, I gave her a dagger look then she backed off. The one who bit her, I didn’t witness at all but the student was brought to the guidance counselor for discipline.

My child has speech delay so definitely, she won’t talk or tell easily who bullied her. Thanks to some of her classmates who reported and thanks to my sharp eyes for seeing others who attempted to bully her.

Funny thing is, these bullies sometimes have to guts to be the victim. Often, they complained that they were pushed without telling the reason why. Oh, I know why. Just like what I saw. The one who pinched my daughter was pushed and she fell on the floor almost hitting her head. She complained to the teacher about my daughter’s doing. Only to find out that she pinched my daughter many times. Since my child cannot converse that easily because of her delayed speech, she was in pain already and her only reason to communicate to stop that bully was to push her. There, she got what she deserved. But to blame my daughter? Uh-oh. Wrong.

But despite that, I still told my daughter that pushing is bad. She knew what is right from wrong. I just hope parents will do that to their kids, too. If they cannot discipline their kids while they are young, what will happen to them when they grow up?

Just Keep Calm

Not much to talk about these days but I guess I will just share in here some thoughts of mine that I cannot share in social media. People sometimes expressed their opinions not thinking that they are stepping somebody else’s toe. They whined and complained a lot, not thinking that what they’re complaining and whining about are exactly what they are doing. They tend to point fingers to others, not realizing that many times they have violated such rules if it benefits them, expressing only disappointments if it’s not in their favor.

I’ve seen and read so many posts in my Facebook newsfeed. I don’t know if I will laugh about it or get pissed. Another thing that I oftentimes read or posts about Bible verses. Sure it’s a good thing to post. I even love reading it. What I don’t like is this same person post a lot of swear words if he/she got pissed over some incidents either their home, office, school and even about politics. What a hypocrite… sorry.

I just hope people will be more careful of what to say online. I’ve learned a lot about that and it’s not even good to post things when you’re angry. It could ruin relationships to families, to friendships and everything. So before posting it, I guess it’s best to cool down your heads first. It will do you no good if you say a lot of bad things because everything will be too late to reconcile…well, just my thought. So, if you dislike someone, better unfollow them or do not add them as friend at all. But I’ve got this habit of keeping my ‘not so likeable friends’ closer, hehe. This is for monitoring purposes, lol.

Think Before You Say Anything About Politics

I refrain sharing my political views as much as possible in my social media account as much as possible. Gone were the days were you could freely express your opinion and have a sensible discussion to others who are opposed to your views. These days, that is not the case anymore. If you express dismay over some matter, you will be automatically branded to a certain political color (yes, the red, yellow, orange, white, purple colors that represents political party). Worst, you will be bashed and any information about you will be publicly displayed and even your family or innocent kids will be dragged. By expressing your opinion, you are also feeding yourself to the lions (or dinosaurs?). They will not stop until they get back at you and humiliate you just because you oppose their opinion. That harsh, huh? So, I refrain from commenting or even liking posts (especially in facebook) if it talks about politics.

I know I should also voice out my opinion sometimes to make a stand. But with that comes responsibility. I am not used to be dragged to any controversy just because I clicked the like button. I think not just twice or thrice but as many times as possible before posting or commenting my opinion. Because only a few people these days are cool-headed or open to criticisms. It’s funny even to see good friends now turned enemy number one just because of political disagreements. Sad…right?

So, I chose to be quiet and chose only people to discuss with my opinion. Even with family members, I shun away topics that may cause estrangement just because of political opinion.

That’s how things are these days. Nobody is wrong, Nobody is right especially if my opinion contradict theirs.

But if you really wanted to know my stand or if I have a voice to contribute, I have and I will if need be.

I am a citizen of this country, even a law-abiding citizen. I follow the right rules but I will not tolerate injustice. I respect the leaders of the country but I also voice out my disagreements on their opinions because that is my right. I have my conscience to follow and I take heed to what is right. So there, I have much more to say but I will just limit it. What I’m saying is that we will just have to respect each other because with respect, unity will still be intact. And there will be peace amongst us…